Have you ever told a lie to get out of a situation? Maybe your absolute favorite movie sequel is coming out that evening when you have to work. So you call your boss and claim you’re feeling sick. Nine times out of ten the boss will SAY ” okay go ahead and stay home, but make sure you bring a doctor’s excuse.” What do you do then? I’ll tell you what. You make an appointment at your local doctors clinic, say that you’re suffering from irritable bowel syndrome or maybe that you have a horrible head cold. Whatever. At that point, you know you’re lying again right? After enjoying that awesome movie night , you come back to work and hand in that doctor’s excuse you lied to get. While doing that you’re actually lying all over again to your boss.
You ever had a friend that was trying to lose weight? Constantly posting homemade smoothie pictures and motivational posts about determination and willpower ? Then they tell you how much weight they’re losing when obviously they haven’t lost more than 2 or 3 lb? They asked you,” don’t I look different? Can’t you tell? I’m sinking into my clothes!” “Oh sure! Yeah I can definitely tell!” Lie.
Maybe you have lost interest in your current relationship , and you need a way to get out of it to pursue that new sexy vixin. “It’s not you baby, it’s me. I need to change for myself I just feel like I need to be alone right now for self-growth. or perhaps, sorry baby, you and I just want two different things right now, I need you to be.” Blah blah blah.. Lie.
Have you ever befriended someone under false pretenses? Maybe they can be a connection to an awesome promotion or job, maybe they are the only you know that knows someone who knows someone with THE best “Bud” in town. Or perhaps you have a big crush on their cousin and need a way in. You find out that cousin will be around your new friend so you all of the sudden I want to become close? It could in fact be someone you would normally have no interest in hanging out with, but that cousin though…. He’s so hot And single. You finally got your crushs’ number , or you finally have a direct connect with great deals, why call what’s her face anymore?
The list can go on and on, but either way, this pretty much makes you a liar. we all Fib for one reason or another, convenience, advancement, opportunity, trying to save face for trying to not hurt any feelings. The question you should ask yourself, is why lying easier than just telling the truth?
About the movies, what would have happened if you told your boss that you had a prior engagement? One of two things, either your boss would say come in or you’re fired, or maybe he would agree and let you take the day off for another extra shift. Which situation do you think would help you keep YOUR self respect?
How about that relationship, you really didn’t have to make up all those things about needing time alone, you could have just been honest and said that you were no longer interested in being the relationship. Why not? At the end you would still be single, and your ex-lover would still be hurt.
If you did not see much change in your friend, what was wrong with telling them that they look the same? It wouldn’t be your intention to make them feel bad, it could actually help them become even more motivated. Sometimes telling a lie can hurt the person more then the truth. And vice versa but still you’re honest. That is the epitome of true friendship. It would show that you have their best interest at heart.
Why waste your time hanging out with someone that you care nothing for? Would it be terrible if you just called them up and said hey, do you think that your cousin would be interested in going on a date? I mean really, how much time could that save? It would require absolutely no funny business. To top it off, the person would respect you for being honest, because they probably would have already known that you’re being phony in the first place. At least you’re not acting like a friend in order to get what you want out of them, it would save you time and boredom, and it would save them dignity from letting someone take advantage of them. So why not be honest from the jump ? Your actions later on will show your true colors either way.
Also we should be considerate about our own feelings, why lie to ourselves? Why convince ourselves that we are less or more than what we are? Just because you grew up with people telling you that you’re ugly, does not mean that you’re not a swan. You don’t need to carry that baggage with you. Why not work out today? Why tell yourself oh, you’ll just do it tomorrow? When you know for a fact you have no intention on lifting a finger. At the end it only hurts you. Can’t? More like, won’t.
Personally, I have lived my life being a liar, maybe I wanted to get out of class, perhaps I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. At times I have wanted to avoid confrontations so I would lie and say everything’s all good. Maybe I didn’t I want to go to my family members house. In my head, I really tried to convince myself that eating a pint of Ben & Jerry’s wouldn’t be that bad.
Nowadays, things are pretty different. my phone barely rings and I no longer lie to myself or keep myself in denial about my weight problem. I’m very much aware actually, so I hold myself accountable every single time. I can now tell my mom, no I don’t feel like going over there today but I love you though! If I had an issue with somebody I am inclined to confront the problem. I have no problem calling out my guilt and I have no problem telling someone why they’re being selfish or whatever . Ask my wife. 😂
Sometimes honesty can be hurtful or chaotic, which is one of the main reasons why we lie in the first place. However, your truth has to come out. Even if it costs you relationships that you never wanted to lose. The truth is, if by you being honest about their faults makes them fall off of your branch, let them LEAF 🍃. Why wait to get drunk to speak a sober heart? Be real while you’re here. It could make your life much easier and peaceful 🧘🏾♀️. Peace ✌🏾.